By Zack Omondi
(…Remember that first impressions aren’t always reliable).
“When I met her during the first time, all that I fabricated to define me was golden – which is not something to be criticized – so as to make everything fall in place later. Yeah, I took her to my place in Hostel H as the status quo states to prepare something classy for her. Obvious like most of us, I tried to make my room look presentable to suit the situation plus – unusual. Then from the early preparations, my friend’s laptop was ready to provide some entertainment for the two of us. What took place is a long story for another story from the cuisine, the stories etc.” narrates Calvin (parody).
I get thrilled when relationship issues gets at hand considering many factors – with Calvin’s story being part of the building blocks. And the question that comes up is whether we understand the question. The question of whether we are getting things right from the word go, or simply answering the campus life style. We have ingrained impressions that get in our way big time. First impressions, while not only deeply affecting, can be flat-out wrong. Consider that there are factors that ladies/men in campus score to them that might be a ‘doctored’ principles of the other party. And that those sounding ‘not my type’ on their resume are less likely to get interviewed.
The words of Nick Hornby (author of the novels A Long Way Down, Slam, How to Be Good, High Fidelity among others) goes that, “It’s not good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn’t even speak to each other if they met at a party.” And yes, it will work for the young stages yet something not destined for far. So what is it to be underlined?
We need to open up and go deeper beyond the superficial feel of that relationship. Yes, the first impression might be awesome but it fades away with time as there are more hidden facts (for the other person) that keeps on germinating with time. We just have to face the facts right and get to understand each other beneath what we sensualize or how we are treated the first time. How serious is the pain when you invest your trust, your love and emotions for something you never discerned wisely in the first place – not something that healthy for both of you. Get to the roots and understand him or her so as you appreciate the flaws factual amongst you: then make the two separable hinge together.